Sunday, May 29, 2011

Are you part of the solution or part of the problem?

solution or the problem?Are you part of the solution or part of the problem?

I wrote a blog post called “are you an anchor or a motor” last year and it bears repeating. I hope you’ll read it again or maybe even read it for the very first time.

You know those people that are so quick to jump on everything in an instant?? 0-60 in seconds?  They tell you “But you’re not doing it right!” Control with a capital "C".

If you haven’t seen “Addicted to Food” on the OWN channel I would suggest you view it as soon as possible. Tennie McCarty is brilliant and I love how she talks about dealing with the BIG C. (control) We all need to learn to let go. Have we forgotten some of the simple things? Assume = makes an a$$ out of you and me. When you are pointing at someone = three fingers are pointing back at you. I love this next section by Jack Canfield.

*Are there people in your life who only have to walk into the room and totally drain you of energy? I refer to these people as psychic vampires. They literally suck the life energy right out of you. Stop spending time with them.

Are there people in your life who are always complaining and blaming others for their circumstances? Are these people always judging others, spreading negative gossip, and talking about how bad it is? Stop spending time with them as well.

Are there people in your life who, simply by calling you on the telephone can bring tension, stress, and disorder to your day? Are these dream stealers who tell you that your dreams are impossible and try to dissuade you from believing in and pursuing your goal? Do you have friends who constantly attempt to bring you back down to their level? If so, then it is time for some new friends.

You’re better spending time alone than spending time with people who hold you back with their victim mentality and their mediocre standards.

Make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive, nourishing, and uplifting people- people who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams, and applaud your victories. Surround yourself with possibility thinkers, idealists, and visionaries.

I spent some time with some incredible people at an event in San Francisco and even though some agreed to disagree, we walked away as friends and a new found respect for each other. I had almost forgotten what it felt like. We were all there to be part of the solution and not one person became a part of the problem.

Next time you are about to contribute to the conversation, ask if you are being part of the solution.

The problem is already there...why don't you do something to work on the solution?

*referenced in this post....special thanks to Jack Canfield's "The Success Principles"

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Claudia said...

I had sleeve surgery a year and a few months ago. I feel great. But in the back of my mind I fear gaining it all back. It was pumped in my head presurgery and even now that if I don't follow the diet ill fail. I find myself barring a lot and I'm scared its psychological. Sorry, venting.

Yvonne McCarthy said...

Claudia I don't know if you'll see this. Your feelings are normal. I'd love for you to check out my page on Facebook. You could post this concern there and we could talk about this. Here's the link. www.facebook.com/bariatricgirlpage
I hope to see you there!